Ask Me What I Need

book_friendI listened to a great City Arts and lectures program tonight. The guest was activist and author Letty Cottin Pogrebin who recently wrote How to Be a Friend to a Friend Who’s Sick. The advice was perfect and would also apply to those who have survived the death of a loved one. Pogrebin suggests we say the following three things to our ill and grieving friends :

1. Tell me what’s helpful and what’s not.
2. Tell me when you want to be alone and when you want company.
3. Tell me what to bring and when to leave.

These statements give your friend courage and permission to be honest about what they really need. Read more and listen to the podcast on the KQED website.


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